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This was the kind of hookup this stupid app was made for! Good clean fun between consenting adults wanting connection. But Lucas is not one of those narcissistic men. When we were hooking up, he asked what I liked, if this move or that one was OK, what else I needed, and if he could come yet.
This dude is the epitome of thoughtful. I think about this as he keeps up his strong big-spoon game. What I am is jealous. We women are all trained that way, right? Obviously, there are no absolutes; there are plenty of men who are nurturing.
All of it! Remember how Eve was made for the sole purpose of keeping Adam from getting bored? In that moment with Lucas, I pledged to behave more like men do when it comes to asserting my needs. Once, a guy kept me up all night screaming bloody murder during his bear attack dreams. Another one must have had restless leg syndrome, because he kicked me like a donkey until the sun rose. Most of them snore, have untreated sleep apnea, or breathe so wildly inconsistently that I panic over them dying in my bed. For me, letting a man into my vagina has always felt way less intimate than letting him into my bed.
Last year I was living in Spain and my then boyfriend was here in France. We saw each other only once a month, so we never quite got used to sleeping in bed together consistently. Every time we visited each other, the first night was awful for both of us. The second was better, and by the third or fourth we slept all lovey-dovey like they do in the movies. But since those trips were usually only a couple of days long, they absolutely exhausted me. I loved that guy and every moment we had together, so it was worth the sacrifice of sleep.
But for a one-night stand? I learned one gem from my friend Anne, when we went away together on vacation. We talked all night instead. I asked her when she started implementing this new rule. What I love about getting older is that I feel free to be more like men, in the good ways. This is what separates the men from the boys: The assholes are the ones who consistently pursue their needs and wants at the expense of others.
The most mature men I know, however, are full of empathy and have become quite thoughtful while still staying true to what they know they need. They naturally do what airplane safety cards tell you to—put yourself first so you can serve others better. Conversely, women are taught to be way too thoughtful.
I have a lot of friends who constantly get frustrated because their husband or boyfriend does whatever he wants without asking. My best friend recently told me that her husband slept in the guest bedroom all week. In the past, that would have led to a fight. I've got to sleep alone for a bit. In a perfect world, things would work out like this—men would become more like women and women would become more like men.
My Tinder firewall is superstrong, and I always come out of hookups now feeling respected, satisfied, and empowered instead of bitter, ashamed, or gross. Men and women can really learn a lot from each other if we start to see that both of our approaches are right. And maybe grown-ass men who want some shut-eye too. On some level, I guess one way I know whether I really do like a guy or not is if I let him sleep in my bed now.
But now, to get between not only my legs but also my sheets, you have to be pretty damn special. Sick of stress and a never-ending to-do list interfering with my orgasm, I tried meditating my way to a better sex life.
And damn, did it work. By Irina Gonzalez. Rochaun Meadows-Fernandez. By As Told to Perrie Samotin. Who would have thought 18th-century characters would be role models for consent? By Wendy Naugle. Rewards Free Stuff Promos. Oh, here we go, I think, Guess I was wrong about this one. The Intimacy of Sleep. Is He Sleep-Worthy? Topics sex aging relationships. Good Sex. My Millennial Divorce.Lonely guy here looking to hook up around midnight
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